“They changed our local palais into a bowling alley and fings aint wot they used to be…” from Lionel Bart’s lyrics for the musical play Fings Aint Wot They Used To Be. Click here for Max Bygrave’s version of this song.
When I was much younger I used to roll my eyes when Mother, Father or one of the grandparents told me how much things have changed since they were young. Now, while I don’t say this to my children and grandchildren, I notice how very much has changed since I was young.
I have written nostalgic posts several times over the past (almost) three months. In particular I waxed lyrical(?) in April.
Memories are great but were things any better?
Fast food for us was occasionally fish and chips and because we lived in the East End of London, pie and mash.
Now everywhere we go we see the ubiquitous golden arches or the BK sign.
Are we bringing up a generation who don’t know the joys of cooking at home and only take the fast food option?
Is the plethora of fast food outlets adding to the benefits of living in the 21st Century – I would think that children are missing out of the times spent in the kitchen with mother or grandmother watching as she prepares the family’s food and learning more about each other.
When we were researching any subject we either used the local library or if we were lucky enough to have a set, used the Encyclopedia Brittanica. Our parents had bought this set for us on what they euphemistically called the ‘never-never’. An early Hire Purchase offer. This was a stretch for our parents but they wanted the best for us.
Now my grandchildren go straight to the web and Wikipedia for anything they need. The web is certainly easier and quicker and I am sure that children are learning so much more than we have learned. So in this way it is better now.
But where is the excitement of finding just the right place to look, the feel of the books and following leads from one thing to another?
We walked or cycled to school – today children are generally driven to and from by parents. Will they learn to be self sufficient and able to get themselves from place to place in this way?
I understand that younger children must be ferried around and I am pleased to report that my grandchildren are now finding their own way around as they should at their age – between 12 and 16. But many of their friends are still driven everywhere by parents.
What about shopping? I wrote about the various shops my Mother visited for groceries in my blog on April 18.
Now we make one stop for everything. Malls are everywhere and we just get into our cars and drive there.
What I think we are missing out on is the normal interaction between shoppers and shop assistants. In these days of check out counters, there is no time to catch up on each others lives as my Mother and her peers used to when shopping,
And driving. Mother didn’t drive and so she walked or took buses. When walking she always met somebody that she knew. Another opportunity to catch up with each other. Now we sit in our cars, often alone, going about our business. No chance to catch up with friends and acquaintances here.
Children played outside after school. Now they seem to be glued to the TV and/or computer playing games. They are missing out on the fun to be had from organizing team or other games in the fresh air.
I guess I haven’t answered the question one way or the other. There are certainly so many things we have now that we didn’t have before and for which we are grateful
- The internet allows me to interact with friends and family around the country and around the world.
- Freezers that allow me to shop occasionally yet always have food on hand.
- Mobile phones that also allow me to keep in touch.
- Computers that allow me to work much quicker and faster. I remember typewriters and then they were replaced by electric typewriters, then memory ones. But they all had one thing in common, if a mistake was made in typing it had to be corrected either by starting over or else making physical changes with whitening products and then typing over. How much easier it is with Word.
- Easy and convenient shopping.
- Credit and ATM cards that mean I can buy what I want/need without having to go to the bank to get money.
- Easy travel between the Southern Hemisphere and the Northern Hemisphere allowing me to visit family and friends.
- Cheaper travel between the hemispheres.
- Cheaper phone calls so I can speak with my sisters regularly.
- And of course, the internet that allows us to share photos between us.
And really too many things to list here. I am sure you can make up your own.
So overall it is better to live today but I would like to share two of my sayings that I use often:
“Memories are the bricks we use to build our lives” and
Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away your precious memories.”
Judith Baxter, mother, grandmother, friend and blogger. 1938 –