Another Wedding

I dreamed of a wedding of elaborate elegance,
A church filled with family and friends.
I asked him what kind of a wedding he
wished for,
He said one that would make me his wife.

~Author Unknown

Yesterday was my wedding anniversary.  If my late husband was still alive we would have celebrated 54 years!    As it was we had only 41 years together.  What a lot of years to devote to one person.

I have a nephew who celebrates his wedding on the same day but it is nowhere near as many years as ours.

Yesterday was Thursday and lunch at Mary Potter Hospice.  I love Thursdays.  I come away filled with hope and admiration for the folk who are facing the end of their days with such equanimity and peace – well usually they are.  I am sure in the dark of night they maybe are not quite so calm, but the face they offer to the world, in this case a volunteer, is one of acceptance.

So yesterday….I went into one of the rooms and hanging on the rail around the bed was a long dress carrier.  One of the visitors apologised and took the carrier down.  I commented that it looked like a wedding dress, whereupon all the visitors laughed and said that was exactly what it was.

Lunch orders were forgotten for the next few minutes as they told me that there was to be a wedding in the hospice chapel that night.  The patient and his partner had decided to ‘just do it’.  Of course, I asked if I could see the dress.  I not only saw the wedding dress, but in the carrier were the dresses for the bridesmaid and for the mother of the bride. What a symbol of hope and acceptance that was.

I told them it was my anniversary and they all congratulated me.  Hugs all around (except the frail patient of course).  His son and daughters were there and there was excitement in the air.  About 30 people were expected to attend and a small reception had been planned.

So at this time of grief there was also a ray of hope.  I don’t know the patient’s name – we use only first names – nor do I know where he and his family live, so I shall have to check next Thursday with the staff to find out how the wedding went.

And to this couple I wish only the best for the time they have now together.  We know that life is transitory and who knows whether tomorrow will come.  And if tomorrow never comes?

“Love is a symbol of eternity.  It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end.”  ~Author Unknown


My rainbow


35 responses to “Another Wedding

  1. Happy Anniversary Judith. Though your husband has passed, you still have a lifelong spiritual bond, and I know your husband is surely marking this anniversary as well 🙂


  2. Happy Anniversary! A very thought provoking post–thanks!


  3. The happiness of weddings make me cry this wedding would have had me sobbing, what a sweet story!


  4. None of us knows how long a road lies ahead . . . it pays to make the most of this moment.

    Happy Anniversary.


  5. what a precious story on a bittersweet day for you. Blessings.


  6. Judith… what a wonderful coincidence, no? Bittersweet for certain, but I love the the fact that the circle continues. I find hope in that …


  7. Nice to know the couple getting married have decided to live each day they have and not just waiting to die. It’s not over til it’s over.


  8. Happy Anniversary, Judith. I agree with Patricia, happy to see them living out every day they have life, and bringing joy to into their lives, and those of others.


  9. Your rainbow is beautiful.


  10. Happy anniversary Judith! I thought I had commented earlier but obviously not…a beautiful post my friend!


  11. Happy anniversary, Judith. Clearly, the love lives on.


  12. I imagine they don’t see many weddings in hospice. I’m sure it was a beautiful ceremony and lots of tissues were used. Happy anniversary to you, too!


  13. jacquelincangro

    An auspicious day for weddings! I admire the volunteer work you do in hospice. I imagine that you have gained a lot of insight from being there. I’d love to hear more about that sometime if you’re able to share with us.


  14. Happy Anniversary to you. I loved the bit abut the wedding dress hanging up. I bet that was something special to witness


  15. Happy Anniversary! It is a bitter sweet story with a rainbow in the mix…wishing you well. 🙂


  16. Thank you. A story of love and hope amidst impending death.


  17. What a lovely story. Thank you Judith x
    Ps. And a belated happy wedding anniversary to you


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  19. ayearoflivingwisely

    Wow! Very inspiring. That is true love and commitment to someone. Thank you for sharing this with me 🙂


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