“Listen, whatever you see and love—
that’s where you are.”
Mary Oliver, September 1935 – January 2019
I have written before on the subject of Alzheimer’s, the Deadly disease. Many of us have suffered with our parents, mother or father, as they struggle through this journey. We have watched them change from the lively, spirited, strong people they once were to this shell of themselves, trying to make sense of who and where they are.
I wrote about a few days in April 2016 when, following a major misadventure, for a few days I didn’t know who or where I was. I mistook my son for a doctor and didn’t recognise my grandsons. But luckily for me, it was only a few days. For that short time, I could bond with my fictional character Jane and those people who are living with this full time.
One such person, and someone I have written about before, is Wendy Mitchell. Wendy says “On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with Young onset dementia. I may not have much of a short-term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget.” Wendy was only 62 with a busy full life ahead of her. Please go over to her site to read more about this fantastic woman.
She is living with dementia every day of her life, and is filling it with activity not only to help herself but to help others too. She is active on various organisations, has written a book and writes a blog post daily.
In today’s post she writes about Tove a woman in Finland from whom she received “the most wonderful email”. Tove had read Wendy’s book “Somebody I Used to Know” and felt moved to write to her,
Tove’s mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s at 56 and sadly died at 64. But she was a poet and before that ability was taken from her, she wrote several poems. With Wendy’s approval and I trust Tove’s as well, I am sharing two of the poems with you.
Let me stay
I’m perhaps already gone
like a mountain
Thank you for sharing 🤗
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I too follow Wendy’s blog and am in awe. She is an incredible person who has met this disease head-on. Thanks for sharing these two poems.
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Hello Darlene. I think i met Wendy through you and as you say, I’m in awe of the woman.
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Thanks for reminding us that we need to support our friends whose loved ones are mentally leaving. It is a sad, sad thing.
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So often all the care and attention is on the sufferer and we forget that those close and dear are suffering too.
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This post has me crying for my mother who forgot how to live no matter how we tried to help. Alzheimers is the worst thief. It robs the sufferer of dignity and robs the caregiver of strength and hope. And finally there is the profound loss.
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Oh, Dor. What a cruel disease this is, and it affects so many of us. Hugs and love from your sister of choice on the other side of the world.
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