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Synchronicity, Serendipity or Coincidence

In August 2017 I wrote a blog post with the same title. The post was about these  three words, used often in every day language, but sometimes misused and/or ill defined.

Serendipity is defined as –
the occurrence and developments of events by chance, in a happy or beneficial way.

In the earlier post I told how my good friend and sister of choice, Chris at BridgesBurning wrote about the serendipity of three people, all in different continents, two in the Northern Hemisphere and one far away in the Southern, connected over a comment on Skype. And into our friendship of two there came another one.

Synchronicity is defined as –
the simultaneous occurrence of events which appear signiicantly related
but have no discernible causal connection.
And according to Carl Jung  – synchronicity is an ever present reality for those who have eyes to see.

These words, Synchronicity and Serendipity, are often confused and used in the wrong context.  They are quite different and should be used differently.  As I pointed out in the  earlier post- it would not have been correct for Chris to use synchronicity in her telling, but it is correct when we both write about the same thing in a blog post.  Or when I send an email saying we should Skype only to find that she has sent the exact email to me.

And we often find this synchronicity in our every day life.    I  recall a perfect example of this when training to be a Life Coach many years ago.  I had read  about Sedona in Arizona; the red rocks and the general feeling of spiritual well-being; and the artists and healers who flock there, and so determined that I would go there in the not too distant future.  The course was conducted on a phone link of 2 hours each Monday evening.  Once soon after I logged in,  I heard one of the other participants talking about a visit he had made to Sedona the previous year and how he was planning on returning the next year for the Sedona Film Festival.

My mind/imagination was captured by this place and then the next morning, in an email from my sister in Los Angeles, she said she thought the next time I visited we should go to Sedona as she had heard such great things about it.

Well didn’t that exactly meet the definition –  significantly related but have no discernible causal connection?

And serendipity at work again the shortly after the death of The Architect, I was thinking about him and about the firm he had established many years ago.  Later that day I was at the hospice where he had died,  and learned that it was his old firm that would be doing the architectural work for the new hospice building.

And coincidence? I often say that there is no such thing as coincidence, but do I really believe that?  There is definitely synchronicity, serendipity and probably there is room for coincidence too.

The definition of Coincidence is – a striking occurrence of two or more events
at one time 
apparently by mere chance:

Several years ago I was in London for the weekend.  The elderly woman for whom I was playing companion went off to a wedding which left me free.  It just so happened that friends were visiting London from NZ and we decided to meet up.  The first evening we went around the corner from their apartment looking for some place to have a drink and decide where to eat.  Imagine my surprise when, on turning the corner, I saw three other friends, a couple from Auckland, NZ and one from Sydney, Australia.  I hadn’t seen any of these people for several years, so their being in London at just that particular weekend, and at that time, in that bar was certainly a coincidence. And –

“If there were no such thing as coincidence,
there would be no such word”
Heron Carvic (born Geoffrey Rupert William Harris)
English actor writer. 
  1913 –  1980 

And why am I revisiting  this earlier post? On Monday, January 4, I posted about my word for the coming year. That word is Hope and with it comes all the great things we can hope for in this coming year.  Today I met a friend for lunch at a garden centre.  The choice of venue was hers and the reason for the location was so that she could buy me my Christmas present.  I chose a rose.  She had arrived earlier than me and on looking around the centre her eyes had alighted on a particular rose.  And its name is HOPE.  Without  a doubt, this is Synchronicity at work again. And by the way, this friend is not a follower of my blog.

“Hope can be a powerful force. Maybe there’s no actual magic in it,
but when you know what you hope for most and hold it like a light within you,
you can make things happen, almost like magic.” 
Laini Taylor, American Young Adult Fantasy Author
1971 – 



“Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul
And sings the tune without the words
And never stops at all.”
Emily Dickinson

At the beginning of each year, I choose one word on which to concentrate. My word for this year is Hope.

What a fantastic word that is. The Oxford English definition is – A feeling of expectation and desire for a particular thing to happen.

So my hopes for the coming year are :

  • That the pandemic is finally halted
  • That the vaccine is available to all
  • That people are allowed to visit family and friends again
  • That life returns to normal, or as near as possible to normal
  • That people stop circulating fake and bogus information about Covid, and
  • That peace talks continue to bring an end to the violence being perpetrated around our troubled world
  • That health and happiness are available to all my family and friends, both physical friends and those in the blogosphere
  • That Mother Earth stops shaking her skirts and forgives us for the damage we have done, and are still doing to our planet.

“You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one.
I hope someday you’ll join us. And the world will live as one.” 

― John Lennon

“The world is indeed full of peril, and in it there are many dark places;
but still there is much that is fair, and though in all lands
love is now mingled with grief, it grows perhaps the greater.” 
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

Profound Thoughts

“Tell me,
what is it you plan to do
with your one
wild and precious life?”
― Mary Oliver

Way back in August 2011 at the very beginning of my blogging journey I wrote a post on Waking in the night.  This was prompted by a post from Peter at Counting Ducks.  Peter says rather eloquently that “Ultimately though it’s what you’ve done, who you’ve known and how you acted when there was no compass or someone to judge your actions that measure how you’re  using your brief time on this planet.”    He adds as a conclusion “Just connect with whats around you and people who matter with you.”

How this resonates with me at this time in my life.  I have no compass to guide me although I have been through this slough once before.  I know that only I can decide how to act and react at this particular time (or at any time) in my life.  I can choose to be miserable and make my family and friends miserable – at least for a time until they get fed up and move on, or I can face life with a smile on my face and a determination to make the most of everything that I have.

I say that “I Choose How I Will Live the Rest of My Life” and I choose not to let this set back (the death of my beloved architect) determine who I am for the next stage of my life.  He would not want me to be miserable and so I am going forth to embrace all that this wonderful world has to offer a woman in the final years of her life.

And because Mary Oliver is without doubt my favourite poet of the 20th/21st Century I offer this :

“…there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do —
determined to save
the only life you could save.”
―Mary Oliver, 1935 –