“If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she’s my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes”
From If Tomorrow Never Comes sung by Garth Brooks.
I heard the song this morning and thought back to an earlier post I wrote in February 2012 – four years ago, really?
And now another love has departed this life (read died) and more than ever I know that we have to tell those to whom we are close, how much we love them. Actions tell us/them but words are very powerful
So today please tell your family and friends how important they are to you. When The Architect was dying, when he was in the final coma, I told him how much I loved him in words and actions. I helped bathe him, change his bed and just as importantly, always had his favourite music playing quietly in the background and constantly reiterated how important he was to me and how much I loved him.
We are told, or I was told by the caring staff at the hospice, that hearing is the last of the senses to go, so I tell myself he heard what I was saying and heard his music. And of course, I felt so much better having done this.
I’m becoming maudlin so I’m off for a walk with a friend in the open air and sunshine. More tomorrow.
“Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world,
which I find myself constantly walking around
in the daytime and falling in at night.
I miss you like hell.”
Edna St Vincent Millay
American lyrical poet and playwright.