“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
― Albert Einstein
This morning I read a post from Elizabeth at Mirth and Motivation. She had written this in response to a prompt from WP Daily Post – Resolved. Her response is/was very clever but it was her Positive Motivation Tip:
“A new year and a new day. Distance yourself from the usual suspects… Time to wave goodbye and flush away the drama.”
that set me off to write today’s post.
Did she mean distance yourself from difficult and/or toxic people who are in your life for no good purpose. We all have these people don’t we? They call on our time constantly often or usually, giving nothing in return. We leave after a phone conversation with them or a visit from them, feeling down and a little depressed.
But it is truly difficult to get these people out of your life. I have several that I have been working on for quite some time. And apart from being rude and telling them in no uncertain terms to back off, leave me alone, don’t call me, I don’t know what to do.
And they do all come with drama. Each has a story to tell again and again ad infinitum, until I could tell the story perhaps even better that they do. Oh the story may vary in small details from time to time and from person to person, but it’s basically the same – poor me. And I get sick of hearing it again and again.
One acquaintance (I hesitate to call her a friend) finishes the wine bottle each night and then gets on the phone for a rambling drunken discourse. It always contains the same elements – difficult children, uncaring husband, no friends etc etc. Why I remain on her phone list I don’t know because I never return her calls (obviously!).
And while these are difficult people, with only one or two exceptions, they stopped complaining and whining while the Architect was sick, but once he died and I moved they were in my face once again.
I can honestly sympathise with those friends and acquaintances who are going through troubled times. After all I am a certified Life Coach specialising in Grief coaching. And I know that the situation will drag on for a time but will then sort itself out one way or the other. I’m happy to listen and encourage them.
So who has any suggestions for the toxic folk who people my world? I really would love to”Wave goodbye and flush away the drama” if only I knew how.
Another post I read today was from Chris at Bridges Burning and she wrote about waiting. We all seem to be waiting for something. Often it’s an exciting something, a visit to or from a favourite relative, a new book ordered from Amazon (or here in New Zealand more likely to be Fishpond), a holiday etc etc. But often it is waiting with a feeling of dread as in waiting for the results of a test, then the further results and then sometimes hope surfaces along with all the positive thoughts and the results are positive, but it’s still waiting.
I feel the beginnings of a book here. Perhaps written in collaboration with Chris, to be called Waiting. And that’s another thing – you may be waiting for some time for this to materialise.
And for me, at this time and always, this is a new mantra.
Once again picture courtesy of Love This Pic