“There is a land of the living
and a land of the dead,
And the bridge is love.”
from The Bridge of San Luis Rey
by Thornton Wilder
It doesn’t seem possible that just 8 weeks ago we were enjoying life and making plans for another trip. But now, what became inevitable, has happened.
After only one round of chemotherapy it became apparent that this invader in the Architect’s head was stronger than any modern medicine. My darling lived only another five weeks.
Surprisingly, he was in no pain except at the very end. The consultants and staff in Wellington Regional Hospital were fantastic. Initially the consultants thought that this could be fought with large doses of chemotherapy, but it became apparent after only one round that this was not to be. So that he was not alone I slept at the hospital in his room with him for the 17 nights leading up to the transfer to the hospice.
The last 10 days of his life were spent at Te Omanga Hospice close to home. What a lovely place, set in beautiful calm grounds and staffed by such an amazing, caring, loving group of people. Again I stayed with him and I too was cared for by this incredible group of people. I cannot thank them enough.
Then quietly and peacefully on Sunday August 16 the Magic Carpet Ride came to an abrupt end. My second love died.
And now they are playing our song – Shall we dance?
“To live in lives you leave behind
Is not to die.”
Judith Baxter, Blogger & friend 1938 –