A Funeral on Friday

“What is this death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval
Somewhere very near,
Just round the corner.
All is well”
Henry Scott Holland Professor of Divinity, University of Oxford –   1847-1918

Today is the day of the funeral and I don’t know what this day will bring forth.

When speaking with the minister on Wednesday I told him that we had organised sunshine for today to give Michael a great send off.  He was quite skeptical but guess what, after a week of quite indifferent weather, the sun is shining brightly.  The birds are singing, the sky is blue, the wind has forgotten to blow and so no need for plan B.

Yesterday I took my friend to the funeral home to see her husband’s body.  This was very upsetting of course, for her.  She was adamant that she wanted to see him but afterwards in between her tears, she said she wished she hadn’t seen him and he didn’t look like Michael.

I chose not to go to the funeral  home when my husband died,  choosing instead to remember Robert as a living, breathing person.  But everybody has to do what they feel is right for them.  The people at the undertakers were very caring and of course, as they deal with this situation every day, they were very solicitous.

We went back to the apartment afterwards and as we were leaving to go to another friend’s house for dinner, I noticed a parking ticket on my car.  A fitting end to another ghastly day.

Tomorrow will be better.

To live in lives we leave behind is not to die”  Judith Baxter 1938 –


25 responses to “A Funeral on Friday

  1. You’re right. Tomorrow will be better. Sorry for your sadness.


  2. The parking ticket after that glorious sunny day, was a reminder that all of us have to move on. Cannot be parked here for ever!


  3. I’m sorry for your loss and I pray your friend will find peace.
    I like your quote, by the way.


  4. Hope today was better Judith and that you are getting some of this beautiful spring weather we are getting up here.

    That quote is profound and a good motto for a philosophy of life–thanks!


    • A very hard day noth for my friend and me. It brought back the time of my husband’s death. However, the sun is shing again today and all is well in my world.


  5. Send sunshine this way! We’re going to be needing it!


  6. Sending you hugs and strength Judith!


  7. Judith – half a world away – yet you are on my mind and in my heart. Hugs, my friend.


  8. Thinking of you Judith as you support your friend through a huge transitional time.


  9. It will get better and I wish your friend comfort and peace… It is not an easy time… You are doing a great job helping her… TY for sharing this sad event… I hope you can dispute the ticket. TY! 😦


  10. The quotes, like marvelous bookends, are such a comfort.


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  12. Judith may death be not proud for taking away our best, our most precious loved ones. When my husband was in a coma I found these two scriptures that helped me so much:
    Lamentations 3:20-26 “I will never forget this awful time as I grieve over my loss. Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this: The unfailing love of the LORD (Jehovah) never ends. By his mercies we are kept from complete destruction. Great is is faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each day. I say to myself ‘The LORD is my inheritance therefore I will hope in him! The LORD is wonderfully good to those who wait for him and seek him. So it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the LORD.
    Isaiah 49: 15,16 “Can a mother forget her infant? Have no affection for the child of her womb? Even if she should forget I will not forget you. See upon the palms of my hands I have carved your name.” The LORD GOD is as tender as a nursing mother to all of us. He is our rock our memorial stone.
    Judith everyone has different beliefs as to what happens to us when we die. My husband and I believed in the resurrection hope. To be brought back to life right here on earth.


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